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If you have ever set a weight loss goal (or any goal for that matter) that you have been unable to attain, then this video is for you.
Often times when we set goals we do it to spite ourselves.
We get so focused on what we believe we want that we completely disregard ourselves in the process.
In this video I share the secret to successful goal setting and I can promise you it has nothing to do with a perfect diet or exercise regime!
I’d love to hear your thoughts, ideas, stories, and experiences with this, down in the comments below.
Polly Black says
Hum….good thoughts from another angle. I want to feel accomplishment and pride in myself. Which comes with follow- through. And in the end better eating and slimmer clothes.
Now, what do I start to accomplish to get there?
Journaling my food and trying to walk everyday might be a start.
But it doesn’t seem enough…
It’s aLL about the little steps. Why do you want to feel accomplishment and pride in yourself? What would it look like to have pride in yourself today, exactly as you are, with or without the extra weight?
Jacqueline Bisson says
Thank you for this – wishing you and your family a fabulous New Year!
You are very welcome. Happy New Year to you as well!
I have given up making New Year goals because I have never been able to achieve them. My goals are exactly the same every day of every year for the last 10 years probably and that is to eat a clean and healthy diet. As a result of that I hope to achieve weight loss. Some times I am successful and others I am not. Unfortunately, I am unsuccessful more often than successful. Your post was interesting to me and I am going to look into that book because I have tried to eliminate all feelings about myself, food, weight loss, outcomes etc.
Ah! Eliminating feelings about ourselves is impossible. However it is possible to ignore yourself and what your feelings are trying to tell you. It might be a good exercise for you to sit down with a pen and paper and ask yourself how you are feeling? Like for real… what would you be feeling if you stopped trying not to feel? xo
Zebra Mama says
Thank you ver much, Dani! This is exactly how I feel – the goal itself does not give me satisfaction, I’m indeed after the feelings. More than that, I reach my weight loss goals every time I set them. But after that I feel confused and disoriented. What’s next? When I had the goal, I had the meaning of the process, the fighting for the goal was satisfying. But after reaching a goal there is no meaning any more. I feel lost. But if I think about it, being skinny is not enough to be happy, I have to feel inspired to enjoy my body, the way I look. I need to WANT to care for myself, to be beautiful. That’s the most important thing. Yes, there are some small things that help me feel connected to myself too, like spending some time with myself, taking a walk in the city, reading an inspiring book, meeting with friends. It’s hard to do everything when you are a mom of three kids, but those things are really important.
Yes! It truly is all about the feeling. Truth be told a body doesn’t really make us feel happy. IT’s the habits we have and how live that create the feelings. It’s an important distinction to make. xo
Interesting topic. This year, 2014, is my year for organization. I am committed to 15-30 minutes each day to organize something. A drawer, a closet; it does not matter. I have set up a trash, a recycle, a donate and a keep container. At 55 years old I feel I have spent enough time collecting things. Hopefully going thru “stuff” will make me smile with memories. The end result will be less clutter and more time spent with me.
Hi – I’m the classic yo-yo dieter and always think I’ll never gain the weight back because I feel so great thin and always, I gain the weight back. My doctor gave me a clean bill of health with one exception…loose the 20-30 extra pounds. How can I loose it once and for all? I feel great most of the time and if one thing makes me sad and/or depressed is failure of not keeping it off.
Zebra Mama says
Thanks for good advice, Barbara! It’s really helpful! I also try to go through things regularly, but making it ‘me time’ makes it more meaningful.
Leslie Calderon says
Hi Dani! I’ve been watching your videos nonstop for the past week. LOVE them so much. This one in particular is amazing and so true. I’m 28 and I’ve had weight issues my whole life. Right now I’m about 40 Lbs overweight. I started eating clean and going to the gym every day for the past month and am down 10.5 Lbs.
I always thought that being skinny would make me happy- and then I gained more weight. I hated dieting and exercising so much. And now that I’m not DIETING- but eating clean as a lifestyle… I am so happy. Every day I feel happy about the journey I’m on and seeing my husband more and more motivated every day because he sees how motivated and happy I am makes me work even harder. I KNOW this is it. This is my time. I’m gonna make it this time and not gain it back. I’m excited. Thank you for your videos.