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Home » Food For Thought » Intuitive Eating » 3 Tools to End Emotional Overeating

Jan 19, 2017(updated January 13, 2022)

3 Tools to End Emotional Overeating

By Dani Spies

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a woman is eating ice cream with her hand in her hair standing in the kitchen emotionally eating. Scroll down to watch the video.

My definition of emotional eating is when we are eating to avoid or numb out an uncomfortable emotion.  Sometime this is conscious, most times it’s not.

A lot of people say eating when you’re not hungry or eating emotionally is self sabotage, but I think it’s the opposite. I believe that for most of us, eating emotionally is an attempt at self care. 

Something comes up for us that is uncomfortable or unpleasant and we try to make ourselves feel better by eating. 

And here’s the thing, it’s kind of a brilliant strategy in the sense that it works (albeit for a very short time).

But it’s a very temporary fix, that ultimately does not support long term health and weight loss goals (plus, as soon as we are done eating the original emotion is still right there waiting for us).

So the real work to do when it comes to emotional eating, is to identify the feeling you are trying to care for and then find a better, more effective way of doing that. 

It’s the ultimate act of self care.

Here are three simple tools that have helped me over the years.

Awareness

You have to be willing to pay attention to the stuff you don’t normally want to pay attention to.  Often times we have so much inner dialogue and conversation around what we should and shouldn’t be eating that once we go off of our self proclaimed rules, we tend to tune out. 

This is what I call eating behind your own back.  It’s the, ‘f-it I’ll start again tomorrow’ mentality,

So what I am suggested, is NOT that you stop yourself from eating the food but rather that you get really curious and stay with yourself while you’re eating the food. 

Have you ever actually payed attention to yourself and the process of overeating? Have you ever watched yourself eat the bag of potato chips or the entire pint of ice cream?  Have you ever actually just stayed with yourself during that experience?

Like, hmmmm… this is so interesting.  What is this food actually doing for me right now and what am I gaining from this eating experience? Because while we may not like the habit of overeating, I promise you, we never do anything without good reason.  So be curious.

Identify The Emotion

So once you have practiced bringing your awareness and allowing whatever is happening to happen, I want you to notice, what you are feeling. 

The feeling that we really want to identify is the feeling that tales place right before the decision to eat.

I want you to ask yourself, “What am I feeling right now?”.

This doesn’t have to be a big, heavy emotion or a negative emotion.   

For instance, I found that I would turn to food pretty much anytime I was experiencing what felt like a big emotion to me. So it could be frustrated or stressed OR it could be super excited or eager.  And often times, it should be something as simple as bored.

This will be different for everyone, but the practice here is to try to recognize the emotion that is creating the desire to eat.

Nourish the Emotion

Once you have identified the emotion, ask yourself, “What can I do right now to take care of and nourish myself without food?”.

What is it that I really need or want right now?

This really is the ultimate act of self care. It’s an invitation to be in relationship with yourself.  To really understand whats going on for you when it’s going on and then to learn/practice how to care for yourself in away that supports your longterm health and weight loss goals without using food.

I am not suggesting this is a quick fix, but I do know these tools work because they are the very same tools I have used and applied over the years to end my habit of emotional overeating. xo

[youtube width=”820″ height=”421″]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lYk9kexQcaM[/youtube]

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About Dani Spies

Dani Spies is the founder and host of Clean & Delicious; a weekly cooking show on YouTube and a healthy eating blog that celebrates real, whole foods! She takes a holistic approach to health and wellness and is loved for her approachable, down to earth style both in and out of the kitchen.

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  1. Fran says

    April 23, 2017 at 9:41 am

    5 stars
    I’ve been binge watching your videos for the past couple of days, trying out recipes, and basically just soaking it all in. Out of all the wellness web sites out there, yours is the one I’m narrowing it down to. Your sensible and sane approach most definitely aligns with what I’m looking for. Thank you for all you do!

    Now, I realize this video is a a few months old, but I’d just like to get my thoughts out there, even if these comments are no longer monitored. Maybe by typing it out, I can come up with a few insights on my own.

    I’ve recently realized that I am most certainly an emotional eater. But I don’t eat because I’m sad, or lonely, etc. Quite the opposite. I do all of my emotional eating when I’m happy. Most of the time, it goes something like this: I work five days a week in a high stress environment. On that fifth day, knowing that I’m going to be off for the next two days, sends me into such a state of relief and happiness that I throw all discipline out the window and go nuts. This pattern not only has repeated itself almost every week for the past 3 or 4 months, but it may extend over a period of 9 days if I happen to be off for a week (I get 5 weeks vacation per year).

    Considering what I’ve just described, I’m pretty certain I’ve identified the feeling that is leading me to eat when not hungry, as well as the reason why. And yes, I’ve even taken at look at myself eating that whole pint of Ben & Jerry’s. My problem is I’m just so excited to be off work that I just don’t care that I’m not hungry, I’ll just eat to celebrate! And if my husband’s day off happens to coincide with mine, that’s even more reason to celebrate.

    I realize that I need to be more mindful and conscientious, and I’m getting ready to buckle down now that I go back to work on Monday. But, is there something else I’m missing? Is relief from stress that leads to happiness that leads to emotional eating really the root cause here? The feeling of happiness is by no means uncomfortable to feel or face.

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